I remember it as clearly as if it were yesterday; lying on my best friendās sitting room floor at 6:00am, taking deep breaths and trying really hard not to throw up. 4 hours to go until I could open that little brown envelope, the contents of which felt as if they would determine my future happiness.
GCSE results day. Looking back, it seems so insignificant. In the light of AS levels, A levels and even first year university results, GCSEs seem so irrelevant. But I donāt know if Iāll ever forget that feeling of crushing disappointment in the pit of my stomach when I opened my envelope, unfolded the piece of paper and found ⦠not what Iād hoped for.
They were good marks, I couldnāt dispute that. And yet, they werenāt good enough. Nothing below top marks was good enough.
Two years later, it happened again. Different city, different school, same feeling. Good results. But not good enough. Never good enough. You would have thought Iād be used to it by then ā the feelings of failure, of having let myself down. I always set myself targets almost impossible to achieve. But this time, Iād really thought I could make it. But I hadnāt managed it. With the grades Iād got, I wasnāt going to be able to get into the university I really wanted to go to. The one everyone in my family had gone to, and the one Iād grown up expecting to get into. I was crushed. What. A. Failure. Lost cause. Hopeless case. Now that Iād failed to achieve the best academically, I didnāt know who I was anymore.
Who was I if I wasnāt the girl who was always top of the class? Who was I if not all my results were As and A*s? Who was I if I wasnāt who I thought I was always going to be?
Who was I if I wasnāt the girl who was always top of the class? Who was I if not all my results were As and A*s? Who was I if I wasnāt who I thought I was always going to be?
Itās at this time of year that exam results, and how well you do academically, seem like the most important things in the world. Who you are seems to be all tangled up with how well you do. And itās so easy to fall into the trap of deception, into the tangled web of lies that tell you that you are nothing if you achieve less than the best.
But pause, just for a minute, and rewind. Back five years, back ten years, back before you were even born. And look, look at what God says to you: āBefore I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apartā (Jeremiah 1:5) Stop, and listen to how God sees you: āThe LORD your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.ā (Zephaniah 3:17). Understand the truth of who you are, āfearfully and wonderfully madeā (Psalm 139:14), āGodās handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advanceā (Ephesians 2:10).
Now, come back. Come back to now, with the thoughts, the feelings, the pressures. The voices telling you youāre not good enough, infiltrating your thoughts, whispering condemnation and failure into your very being. Recognise them for what they are ā lies. This is not the truth of who you are. The letters on the page in front of you do not reflect your worth. You are a child of the King. Created, loved and redeemed. Covered by grace and clothed with Christ. Nothing can separate you from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.(Romans 8:39)Nothing. Nothing at all. Not even exam results.
I wish that on that day 5 years ago, opening that brown envelope, I had asked for Godās strength and truth to reign over the anxiety and the feelings of failure. I wish I had been equipped with the truth to conquer the lies. I wish I had listened to the still, small voice amidst the raging sea of my emotions.
I wasnāt equipped then, but I am now. And so are you. No longer is your identity based upon you and your achievements. Instead it is where it truly belongs ā hidden with Christ in God. Your identity is what yours creator says it is, and, praise the Lord, nothing you do ā or fail to do ā changes that.
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